The other day Dakota and I were on our way to our friends house and as we were walking out to our truck my husband yells “LOOK OUT FOR THAT LEAF!” I naturally freaked out and looked down to see if I avoided stepping on the nasty leaf and then realized that he said leaf. Not dog poop, or spider, or mud – leaf. I immediately busted out laughing realizing what had happened and quickly replied “Dang it I smooshed it.” Followed by over dramatic fake crying. After comforting me we laughed the entire way to our friends house and I couldn’t help but fall in love even more.
My husband has always been able to keep me on my toes. He is always coming up with clever/creative/goofy ways to show that he cares about me. It isn’t always “I love you” or “You’re beautiful” but being silly and flirty is validating his love just as much as actually saying it. Constant pranking, making bets, sending funny faces in snapchat are just a few ways he shows me that he is thinking about me and wants to keep me laughing and happy.
I often see articles about “how to flirt with your spouse” or “keeping the spark alive” and even though they are great posts I can’t help but feel like keeping the spark alive is just by paying attention. Everyone has a love language and depending on what it is that is how they show their love. I often don’t realize that every day actions are my husband showing that he loves me. These actions include texting me during a busy day at work, putting the toilet seat down, and telling me to drive safe whenever I leave the house.
If my husband didn’t genuinely care about me he wouldn’t do those things. It is easy to get caught up at work and just get in the zone and knock out all of your work. But it says a lot when your overwhelmed and stressed but take the time to say “Super busy day but I love you”. This tells me that he was thinking about me while being busy and that is amazing! Whenever I get overwhelmed all I want to do is talk to my husband and I love that! I love that I can confined in him and count on him to be my support system.
These may all seem like small mediocre things but to us they say a lot. Since stepping on that dreadfully scary leaf I have reminded myself of all the other ways we have expressed our love to each other over the last four years.
>>Writing notes/drawing pictures with qtips on the bathroom counter
>>Changing the words to songs to something cheesy and cute
>>Letting him be the “little spoon”
>>Coming to bed even if he isn’t tired and staying until I fall asleep
>>Saying goodbye to each other every morning whether we are awake or not
>>Checking to make sure the door is locked so we are safe
>>Sending ridiculous snapchats to each other
>>Doing hobbies/activities that we may not enjoy but our spouse does
>>Surprising each other with a drink from the gas station after work (or whenever)
>>Letting me take a million pictures of him all of the time
>>Making two dinners because you know the other one won’t like what you make
>>Pranking each other in the shower (pouring water over the side, flushing to toilet, etc.)
>>Dancing embarrassingly good in the car/bathroom/kitchen
>>Make bets on how much the grocery bill will be
>>Staying out of the bathroom so the other person has more room to finish getting ready
>>Putting our cold feet on each other
I could seriously come up with a million more silly ways we show our love! I’m so grateful for a fun husband who keeps that spark alive and flirts with me every day. My motto this year is to be more mindful in all aspects of my life; including our relationship. In just a few short weeks I have already been more aware of these expressions of love and feel like I am trying to show my love more since noticing them. I know that we are still young and haven’t been married long but knowing our love language and recognizing those acts of love now will just help us more in the future. And honestly with my husband, I don’t think there will ever be a dull moment!
What silly ways do you and your significant other show your love?